When you point this out you’re told you’re being “selfish” for wanting him/her to pay attention.5.
He/she gives only when he/she expects to get something back in return.
When you point out how his/her words/actions are “hurting” you, he/she just can’t make the link between his/her words/actions and how you feel.4.
He/she wants you to listen, give emotional support and even worry about how he/she is feeling but never takes time to listen to how you feel — or even thinks how you feel is not important.
He/she always makes promises he/she doesn’t fulfill.
Either consciously or sub-consciously he/she always seems unable to “remember” a commitment he/she made and may even blame you for his/her failure to fulfill a responsibility.9.
They have no consideration for anyone else, and worry only about their own comfort.
Selfish people are well mannered and nice to everyone, but they’re nice only as long as they get something more back in return from the people around them.
Unfortunately for you, the traits of a selfish person aren’t easy to notice, because they cover their darker side so well.
[Read: 10 signs your partner is only using you] The irony of it all is that a selfish person wouldn’t even know they’re being selfish.
They’d just assume they’re nice people who care about their own happiness more than anything else.
[Read: 15 subtle signs of a controlling boyfriend] How to deal with selfish people If you’re traumatized by a selfish person in your own life, don’t hate yourself for it. No one really realizes that a partner or a friend is selfish at the beginning of the relationship.
You’d only see the signs when it’s too late, and there’s little you can do to change their behavior after that. A selfish person is one who cares only for their own pleasures, even if it causes pain to someone else.